Online dating can be a lot of things to a lot of different people but there are some aspects of online dating that are universal. Whether you’re new to online dating, thinking of getting back into it, or just genuinely curious about online dating, I have written (almost) everything you need to know about online dating:
1. It’s a numbers game
When it comes down to it, your success will be tied directly to your volume of dating, and less so with filtering, match percentages, mutual interests, or anything else. Your success, unless you meet the love of your life on your first online date, will require going on quite a few dates.
2. It wont be easy
Dating online is a lot of things but what it is not, is easy. Yes, hooking up has become remarkably easy with the advent of several hook-up focused dating apps, but nothing has gotten easier about dating. Yes, you have more options, but that doesn’t make things any less difficult. Remember, online dating doesn’t make dating all that easier, but it wont make dating all that much harder either.
3. Girls: You’re gonna see a lot of dicks
Sorry ladies but if you’re dating online, you’re going to be seeing a ton of dicks. I mean that both literally and figuratively. You will meet a ton of terrible guys who act like dicks and you will also probably get sent a fair share of pictures of male genitalia. “But Demetrius, I don’t even date dudes” well I hate to be the one to break it to you but even if you don’t even like peens, you’re still gonna be sent pictures of them…and as a dude I apologize on behalf of all dudes who send unsolicited penis pictures.
4. Guys, you’re gonna get rejected a lot
Guys, rejection is gonna come, and usually in waves. Especially if you’re sending dick pics. Even if you’re the type of guy who doesn’t send unsolicited pictures of your bits, you’re going to be getting rejected fairly often. It wont be rude, or heart-breaking, or insulting, but your messages will not get replied to, your 1st dates wont lead to 2nd dates, and people will just disappear. Don’t take these rejections personally, just keep moving forward.
5. Not everyone is honest about what they’re looking for
You’ll notice that a lot of my advice comes back to the point of honesty. The thing is, people are often dishonest about what they want. If you’re dating profile says that you’re looking for a relationship and you’re kind of a catch, you might encounter people who will say that they’re looking for a relationship but are really just trying to get in your pants. Remember to judge people not only by what they say in person or on their profile, but also by what they do. People tell you who they really are, whether they realize they’re doing it or not.
6. You will eventually get burned out
Everyone gets burned out by online dating on a long enough timeline. There are some people who meet a great person after a week of online dating but they are not the norm. All the things I mentioned above will happen so frequently that eventually, you’ll get burned out. I dated online for almost a decade and there were plenty of times where I simply took a break from online dating. If you’re feeling burned out, take a break. Online dating isn’t something you HAVE to do so if you feel yourself getting burned out, it’s time to put your search for love online on-pause.
7. You CAN meet someone amazing
With all of those warnings I can say that without a doubt that you CAN meet someone amazing. Not that you WILL, but you CAN. Love is not guaranteed and neither is finding someone amazing online.
Good Luck Out There.