Sexting: A Primer

Let’s pretend you’ve been living under a rock, or you’ve been using a cellphone without a camera and you’re in the dark about Sexting. Well, I’m here to help you out. What is Sexting?

Sexting, according to wikipedia, is “the act of sending sexually explicit messages and/or photographs, primarily between mobile phones.” (Fun Fact: Sexting is now a word according to  Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary as of 2012) How do I Sext? Several different ways. If you’re old school, it could just be that you’re sending sexually explicit/flirty texts or emails. If you’re part of the new school, you’re probably sending flirty/explicit pictures either via email or text. These can be sent directly to users or by using 3rd party apps such as Snapchat or Facebook Poke. More on these later Who sends Sexts? For the most part, the younger you are, the more likely you are to send sexually explicit communications using a mobile device. Though Anthony Weiner and a ton of other public figures proved that isn’t always the case. What are the dangers associated with Sexting? Besides the fact that there is a 56% chance that your pictures will be seen by an unintended party? Even better, check out this quote from this article about Parasite porn sites  published at The Guardian: A study by the Internet Watch Foundation (IWF) reveals that 88% of self-made sexual or suggestive images and videos posted by young people, often on social networking sites, are taken from their original online location and uploaded on to other websites Oof. That’s a sobering statistic. Keep in mind that there are is a whole genre of websites dedicated to showcasing other people’s  pictures as revenge.

How do I sext without worry? First off, if you’re under the age of consent my advice is to not send sexts at all. I’m not moralist but I suggest you keep pictures of yourself to yourself if you can’t legally buy cigarettes in stores. Plus, the legality of sending explicit photos if you’re under age is still up for debate. You need to understand that chances are, these pictures are going to get out. It doesn’t matter if you’re a pretty famous actress or a politician from Brooklyn, those pictures might be seen by someone other than the intended recipient. Regardless, you’re resolved to show someone your naughty bits, how do you do it without worrying? For all you consenting adults, here is how to Sext (if you choose to do so): Use “self destruct”  messaging apps Snapchat, Facebook Poke, and an ever increasing number of apps are coming out that send out temporary messages to other users. There are a number of ways to exploit these apps to take screen-grab the pictures sent to you (Snapchatb locks these, Facebook Poke notifies you if this occurs) but the advantages of sending out a naughty picture that disappears in 10 seconds instead of you know, never, are pretty good. Snapchat can only send pictures/video while Facebook Poke can send text as well. Facebook Poke is available for iTunes only, while Snapchat is available for iTunes and Droids (sorry Windows phone users) Hide your identity

When you’re sexting, you want to be more Spiderman than Superman. Those glasses aren’t going to hide your identity but obscuring/not including your face in the picture will. Worst case scenario if the picture gets out you can deny it was you. Don’t send Sexts The safest way to send a sext is to not send a sext. No regrets if it never gets out. In closing I just want to say that I’m not necessarily against Sexting, but I am against having the people who do send them exploited. Could you imagine what it must feel like for a teenager to send their crush a picture of themself and for that picture to be seen by everyone they knows? I’m guessing that answer is “Not that good”. Use your head if you do decide to get tech-savvy with your flirting.

Good Luck out there

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